Self Improvement with Job

March 19, 2010

Kill Those Inner Voices That Are Ruining Your Life

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I have succeeded at last. At what you may be asking? Well I have been fighting a war with the voices in my head or my demons as I call them. These are the voices which made me doubt myself; voices which stopped me from becoming a success; voices that were lowering my self-esteem and voices which were basically ruining my life. I have now found an inner peace and this has also helped me to become a successful businessman where I provide Vodafone voucher codes as well as offering a cost reduction service. In this article I will be explaining about the ways in which I managed to win this war; ways which I hope will prove to be an inspiration to others.

I had this voice in my head for many years and I was not really aware of the hold it had over me or its true power until the age of about twenty-one. When thinking about it in a bit more depth I suppose that I actually saw these voices as a kind of a friend rather than an enemy. I am very much aware of just how crazy this sounds now.

I was unfortunate to develop a stutter when I was a young child and this speech impediment would continue to haunt my life until I finally overcame it when I was aged twenty-two. The stuttering impediment had a detremental effect on my overall confidence and was the cause of a great deal of distress. I was more than keen to find a solution to this stuttering problem and of techniques that could enable me to gain self-confidence. This is when I started to really learn about the damaging affect that these demons can have on one’s life.

For many years they would talk to me and would some how manage to convince me to think in a negative manner. I was advised by these most annoying of voices to leave school at the age of 16 and this is something which I duly did. They advised me not to put in for a promotion at work as they stated that I would not gain the higher position – I listened to them and therefore did not even apply for the position. Why was I listening to this demonic voice? Well I suppose it was because I did not know of any other way.

I eventually realised that I needed to basically ignore these voices and that in fact I should do the opposite of what they had advised. This was far from easy in reality and we fought many battles along the way. Victory in this most vicious of wars was eventually mine I am very pleased to announce. I am now in a much better state of mind to have a positive career which at the moment is within the jobs in foster care and front doors sectors.

Believe in yourself, be decisive and work hard to eliminate your inner voices – your future success is dependent upon it.

March 8, 2010

The Best Way To Eradicate Shyness

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There were many reasons as to why I was a shy person. Each and every member of my family seem to be forever worrying about something – it really is quite bizarre. We all spiral in and out of depression and basically have a negative outlook on life.

I also grew up having to cope with a stammering problem which as you can imagine did not help my own confidence levels and only added to what was already the difficult task of mixing with other people. I did eventually manage to achieve fluency and to stop stuttering but only after suffering with the speech impediment for eighteen years.

I now help people to overcome stammering, I also provide Asda voucher codes as well as offering a medical negligence claims service.

I have to say that I always preferred to be by myself and was what many people saw as a loner. When I am on my own nobody can hurt me and I was also in no danger of stuttering. The weird aspect was that inside I was a very confident person who was desperate to show the world, the real Steve Hill.

Being shy made it difficult for me to form relationships with women and made my work life also more of a choir.

At the age of around twenty-one I decided to attempt to overcome my shyness once and for all. I had to understand the real reasons behind why I was shy and to deal with each one in turn. I asked myself many questions such as:

Why are you scared of people? This was because I had a fear of not being accepted or liked. They may hurt me by being aggressive towards me or by taunting me about my speech etc. This was me being paranoid, so I decided that if I don’t try, I won’t know.

Why are you afraid of socialising? This was because I did not feel that I had a lot to say and believed people would think I was boring. I decided just to try my best and to see what happens.

What are the reasons for your lack of courage in talking to the ladies? I guess this was because I was worried that they would not have any interest in what I was saying or that they would make fun of me. It is similar to the case above; how I am supposed to know if I am not willing to give it a go.

I have now come to realise that out of ten people I meet, three of four of them might not like me, but that means there are six who will. There is no place in this short life to be constantly down and depressed. I have to battle against my shyness and break free of it once and for all.

I now have more confidence than I ever have had. I still have periods where I become shy but these are becoming less and less as time goes by.

September 30, 2009

The Frustration of Having a Stammer

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Are you one of the many people who suffer with the speech impediment known as stuttering or stammering? Does your stutter/stammer cause you to become very frustrated at times? Have you attended speech therapy in the past in the hope that it would help improve your speech? I have managed to successfully overcome my own stammer and as a career I now help other people to attain fluency. In this article, I write about the frustrations and emotions that people who stutter have to deal with.

When I had a stutter, it created many different forms of emotions within me. I was actually ashamed of having this speech impediment and did not want to discuss the problem with anybody. My family, especially my parents, even to this day are unaware of most of the difficulties that stuttering caused me, during my time at school and in my late teens. Even when I had a really bad day at school, I would not talk about what had happened with my parents. I would instead just go to my bedroom and attempt to forget it.

I also felt quite sorry for myself. I always believed that I was a decent person and did not think that I deserved to have this horrible stutter. There were many people in my class who in my opinion deserved to have the stutter much more than I did, however in truth I would not wish a stutter on anybody.

I was a person who felt like a second class citizen due to the fact that I had this speech impediment. I was not able to socialise with the ease as what everybody else seemed to, and had many traumatic experiences in the classroom when attempting to read out of a book for example.

Even though I had a stuttering problem, I could at times talk quite well. I could not understand why I was able to talk to person A but not person B. This caused me many frustrations.

When I was about sixteen, I started to drink alcohol. This had a major impact on my speech as I could talk perfectly well when I was drunk. This showed me that it was possible to “stop stuttring”.

Speech therapists and negative national associations, have for years attempted to convince me to accept my stutter and have told me that there is no cure for stuttering. How can this be right, if I was constantly drunk, I would be fluent, there is a cure in itself. Of course it is not right or healthy to be constantly drunk but I am sure you know what I mean.

There were certain speaking situations that were especially difficult for me to handle during the period of my life when I had the stammer. Making and answering telephone calls was especially hard for me. I look back now and can not believe that I coped with working in an office environment for six years, at a time when I had the stutter. I remember traveling to work feeling sick in my stomach through the stress and fear.

Ordering drinks and food at the bar, introducing people to each other, attending meetings and job interviews were other aspects of my life which were made all that more harder by my inability to talk fluently.

My advice to people who have a stuttering problem is to not give up, believe in yourself and your own ability to one day achieve fluency. Do not listen to negative people who try to convince you that there is no cure for stuttering. Most of the people who say this to you will have never had a stutter and will have no idea how our brains work.

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