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November 26, 2009

Things that couples can seek to help their relationship

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A couple undergoing relationship problems is one of their toughest times to undergo.Of course, not all relationship undergo very bad relationship troubles.Most experience some problems every now and then.  But there are times when the situation gets real bad.  So bad that divorce becomes a possibility.  When that happens a couple really needs to move fast to try and save it.So here are some professional advice on what they should and can do to save their relationship.

If the situation becomes so bad that communication is an issue they need to seek help.  Having a San Diego marriage counselor practice has allowed me to see this problem so many times.This can really be a very disastrous situation.  Because if there are issues causing problems in a marriage that is bad.But if there are problems that already involves the communication between a couple then that would be worse.But a relationship counselor can help them with this problem.

Another common problem I see doing my San Diego marriage counseling practice is not having a good place to fix things.Because the home is not a neutral field anymore for a troubled couple.A couple have a hard time working out their problems in their own territory.
  Marriage counseling gives them a safe environment to work that out.

Another issue I see couples having is money problems.This problem can cause a lot of strain on a couple’s relationship.  Doing couples therapy San Diego has allowed me to help out in this area as well.But for them to work this problem out a couple must first acknowledge that it comes from money.Then after recognizing that the problem stems from money issues then they can start working their problems out.

So there we see that troubled realtionships still has a chance at a reconciliation.The couple just have to have the willingness to work things out.Because if they are not, then that would be hard to solve.But oncce they are already willing to work things out then the next things would be easy.

November 14, 2009

How marriage counseling can help

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Divorce is one of the saddest things that happen in our society nowadays. And itdoes not just affect two people or the couple alone.It also involves their children as well.  The sad part about it is usually it could have been avoided.It could have been prevented had the couple decided to go on a marriage counseling to seek help with their problems. So, let us discuss some of the good things that marriage counseling brings to a marriage.

First of all it will provide an environment for both parties to work out their differences.  Of course it only works if both parties want to work it out.  I have seen couples in my marriage counselor San Diego practice who didn’t really want to work it out.If that is the case then it will never really work.But if the couple really want to save their relationship then counseling can be of big help.

Another thing is it will provide a nice environment for both of the parties.A neutral place to express and say what they want without any worries is what I meant by nice environment. That way, they will be feeling safe.  If they feel in a more comfortable environment this will help out the process.  This is a better alternative then working it out at home where there is constant fighting. So many couples come in for my marriage counseling San Diego service and they immediately are more civil in the office.

Finally, a good therapist will make the couple communicate better. That is one of the keys to resolving their problem.  That is communication.More often than not, the problem of couples stem from the fact that they lack communication.  Most of the time instead of communicating they are really just yellling.  By having a good therapy session, the therapist can teach them how to communicate.  In my couples counseling San Diego practice I emphasize the need for communication.It is one of the most important aspect of this process of reconciliation and counseling.And it could also be the key to saving this relationship and saving it from going into a divorce.

November 3, 2009

Anger and depression-two problematic emotions if excessive

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One of the things that can sometimes be good or, at other times, be very bad is emotions.Emotions like joy, happiness, love, and others are good for people and good for the health.But you also have emotions like anger, sadness, and depression.They are also kinds of emotions but they are harder to carry around and handle.  Most of the times people are able to control it.  But there are situations that make some of these emotions dangerous.

For example depression is a tough thing.It might be due to some tragic event that happened in someone’s life.Tragedies or events like losing a loved one can trigger it.  Or sometimes it can be a chemical imbalance.One dangerous emotion that was shown in the news one time is when a man’s depression became and turned into an emotion called anger.  His situation seemed hopeless to him and so that his depression turned to anger. He went on a rampage and hurt some people.  That is an extreme case but it happens.  That is why as a depression counseling I try to tackle the problem head on before it can turn into anger.

Well the times it does turn into anger then you have to move into another form of counseling.  And that form is anger management San Diego help.Because unlike depression where the affected person’s mood is always passive.Anger can harm others and can be very dangerous.So if one is really dealing with anger then he/she or his/her relatives must see to it immediately before it worsens.

Of course in my family counselor San Diego practice I see a full range of emotions.  Usually it is when it is affecting the family life.  That is when counseling is appropriate. One thing that you wouldn’t and should not want to happen to your family is let it be ripped apart because of uncontrollable emotons.  And it should be the goal of all family counselors to nip it in the bud.A good and effective counseling will be able to do that and can save family relations.It has happened in the past and will still happen with the help of good counseling.

October 17, 2009

The hardships that a couple undergoes in a couples counseling

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Fighting or arguing is one of the unfortunate things that can happen in a marriage.  I don’t think there has ever been a couple that has never had a fight.The unfortunate thing is when the fights grow bigger than what it should just be.It is just natural for a couple to argue sometimes and have differences.But what makes it unfortunate is when a couple’s differences separate and do not reconcile.

Dealing with couples as a San Diego marriage therapist has allowed me to see how difficult it is for some people to seek counseling.There are couples who are not keen on sharing their problems with a stranger.Or there are some people out there who have too much pride to be asking for help.And also, there are couples who do not believe that their situation can still be fixed.But that would be sad.Because with a good counseling most of the couple’s issues can be resolved. 

But married couples are not the only ones qualified to see a couples conselor. Problems also arise in couples that are not married but living together.  But just like in marriage a couple can let it get too far.  I know because doing couples therapy San Diego has allowed me to see both ways.  The relationships that have sought help have experienced tremendous success. While those that did not saw their relationships fade into thin air. Of course therapy isn’t the end all but it can help.

Why does couples counseling help?Because the one that would help you is a professional in this kind of thing.  This professional has had a lot of experience with all kinds of situations.Experience is a big help with this kind of a situation.With some very good advise some issues can be fixed.  It can point out where the difficulties are.It can give a plan on how to fix a couple’s problems.  Time and time again doing San Diego marriage counseling has proven this to be true.Even if it does not work the relationship is going to end anyway so there’s nothing to lose.  But if it does work, it can save a wonderful relationship.

September 5, 2009

How to excel in sports

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One of the great aspects our society is the sports we enjoy.Beginning with the pro athletes even going all the way to the little kids.We get to benefit from it all.  One thing about sports though, no matter how gifted you are it’s still very mental.

What am I saying with that?  We have all seen very gifted athletes who couldn’t make it.When you try to determine why, quite a few times it will be because of their mental state.  I know this for a fact helping a lot of athletes doing sports psychology in San Diego.At each level there comes a point where most people are pretty good.The ones that are able to conquer the mental game will be the successful ones.

A majority of the times what holds back an athlete from success is the mental attitude they have.We witness very exreme situations in professional sports where bright stars just can’t succeed anymore.

But we are also very aware of the instances where there was an athlete who was struggling suddenly turn it around after hiring a sports psychologist.

In golf, Tiger Woods is probably the toughest golfer mentally.  Yes he has an excellent game.But it fascinating to see all his competition fold under the pressure of competing against him.Very good example showing just how mental the game of sports are.

So for athletes that maybe want to go onto a professional career, they should start in high school.  By starting in high school, I mean they should make sure their mental game is in tip top shape.If they feel they need to, they need to go and hire a therapist.  I get hired all the time to do teen therapy in San Diego to help young athletes. 

When you boil it down to who will make it big or just be a regular, it definitely is all the difference in the world.So if you are experiencing struggles in sports, examine yourself.The majority of the physical struggles we experience are due to the mental struggles. Hiring someone like a family counselor in San Diego can change that.

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